March 2003

Be Your Own Hero

I like to read biographies because I enjoy knowing about the triumphs other people have in their lives. I sometimes feel like I'm the only person who is facing down fears and problems, but I imagine everyone else feels that way, too. So the biography thing is a great idea because not only do you not feel so alone, but you can get great ideas on how to accomplish things that you might not have had otherwise.

The actual truth is that there are precious few overnight successes. From time to time I have heard about people who picked up a paintbrush and could paint like a pro immediately. Or who landed a dream job with very little preparation. You know the stories. But if the facts were closely examined, we would find that the person had painted, drawn and doodled since they were a little child, or the person with the great job actually knew the key people involved so they could get an interview.

The truth is that Michelangelo was fired from his first job as a sculptor. Abraham Lincoln ran for office over and over and lost many times before he became one of our greatest presidents. J.K. Rowling was turned down numerous times by editors who are now probably sitting on street corners holding cups before the right person "got" her story. Tales abound about people who struggle for years to gain a foothold in the career of their choice.

My point here is that in trying to get your story published or your painting completed or land that job you want so badly, there will inevitably be setbacks. However, you are doing heroic things every day to get you closer to what you want. Acknowledging those things can go a long way to help you feel better about the journey. Self appreciation is high octane fuel for keeping your spirits up.

Now maybe the project closest to your heart is just not moving forward. But you have things you have done in the past that have turned out wonderfully. Remembering your triumphs is a great way to feed your soul.

Quote of the month: "Suffering is the refuge of people who cannot face their own brilliance." -- Suzanne Falter-Barns from How Much Joy Can You Stand

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